Wednesday, February 27, 2008

I just can't help it

I can't stay in the house anymore. Today was suppose to be partly cloudy and 51 degrees, which is like Tropical weather in MT in February. Hannah and I were both very excited. Less than five minutes after she woke up she asked if we were going for a walk in the stroller today. Weather.com said that it was 41 and felt like 36. It is very overcast and slightly windy. But after the forth time of Hannah asking to go for a walk, I bundled up the kids, prayed that a true MT wind would not kick up and head out for a walk. I ended up doing our standard 30 minute loop, and we played with sidewalk chalk with our gloves on when we got home :) I think the 1.5 hours outside helped ALL of us to have a good attitude! It is amazing the change in my kids when they get to play outside! It's almost as big as the change in me.

In quasi-related news, Jeremy's parents are flying to MT in three weeks. It has been such a blessing to get to see our families so much. Grandkids are such a good motivator :) And while they are here, Jeremy & Scott will be building an 8' x 8' sandbox for the kids! Well, as long as it doesn't snow the week after Easter...We got the idea from friends in Korea who said that every base they've moved to (except Korea, of course) they had built a 10' x 10' sandbox for their four kids. The mom said they would play for HOURS at a time. I need that kind of outdoor toy! (And yes, Jeremy is building a cover for it, too.) If I really have my act together, I may start painting my kitchen cabinets while they are here. We'll see what happens! Pictures, of course, will be forthcoming when above mention projects are finished.

Off to convince (discipline) Hannah to stay in bed for naptime. Oh the joys!

Monday, February 25, 2008

Maybe

Maybe it's because I'm not sick anymore. Maybe because I can have a cup of coffee (or two!) in a day without rolling over in pain. Maybe because I got to play outside last week and go for walks and get exercise and sunshine. Maybe it's because I am shedding mommy-guilt over my hours worked in the office. Maybe because busy season if half-way over. Maybe it's because of the prayers of my friends. Maybe it's because of the emails that told me that I'm fighting with things that all women fight with. Most likely it's the grace of God because He knows how much I can handle. Whatever the reason, I'm doing MUCH better this week! I'm not longing to retreat to my bed (except to relieve the fatigue). I don't want to bury myself in the covers while praying and asking God to let me wake up in Heaven rather than waking up in Montana(!). I'm actually getting some things done (and you all know that accomplishing tasks is almost a hobby of mine!). Well, SOME things. My tax return has been half done for a month now...

Anyway, I just want to post a little sunshine on the blog rather than listing all of my blahs. I still have so much to figure out, so many questions that are left unanswered. But as I figure them out, I'm sure I'll be spewing forth what I"ve learned so that the poor souls who follow me in the steps of motherhood don't lose their mind quite as much as I am :)

Friday, February 22, 2008

Stuff

My fellow bloggers will understand what I mean when I say that there are many nights that I lie in bed thinking about my life and writing about it in my mind like a blog entry. And my emotions have been so crazy (my moods swinging like a pendulum) that I haven't been able to really write anything for fear of how it will sound. In all honesty, I've been going through one of the hardest times of change in my life. Not that my life has been absent of change in the last decade. I think that would be the word that could best describe my life. But most of the changes that have happened in the last year have not been ones I have chosen and have not been ones I WOULD have chosen if given the choice in the first place. Add to this lack of control in the decision making process is the fact that the changes have been hard ones to live with. Then add seasonal depression (something I've never had before) and some pregnancy hormones along with busy season hours and a husband studying for his professional licensing test. Do you know what you have?? The recipe for a nervous breakdown. And with any period of great stress there are good days and really, really bad days. And because most of the days have been really, really bad days, I've been staying away from my computer. Just like mom says...If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all!

I don't know where I am in all of this. I really do think that seeing my friend counsel (can you believe that I can get my insurance to cover a CHRISTIAN counselor??) would be beneficial. I know what my problems are (for the most part) and I've been a christian long enough to know what the bible says about all of them. But just because I know what the truth is doesn't mean I can just say "Ok, I'm going to stop hurting now that I know that God works this out for His purposes." The road to maturity in the Lord is hard. And sometimes it means walking a path that we don't want to walk on for a very, very long time. Look at Moses. Do you really think he wanted to walk around the desert for 40 years? And maybe I"m at point. Maybe I'll be walking around the desert for 40 years. Maybe when I'm 69 the Lord will say "Ok! You've been faithful to walk where I've called you to walk, in this desert--enter your promise land!" I suppose I just have to be careful not to smite any rocks in the next few decades...

It's so easy for people say that if we read the promises of God and apply the truth of the Word that the joy of the Lord will just overcome all of our circumstances, as though life will be beautiful in an instant. But is it really like that? Was Moses so filled with the joy of the Lord that walking around in circles in the desert with one million whining Jews was a wonderful experience to him? And this is where I am. I've never been in this place before, and I'm not quite sure what to do with all of these new pieces. I always thought life would be that way. If I loved the Lord with all of my heart that it didn't matter where I was, who I was with, or how long I would be there, that life would be filled with that feeling you get when you are at mama's house. But I'm finding myself a stranger in this life, never able to really feel that peace of home. Yes, I know that as citizens of Heaven we are strangers on Earth. But I've never really felt like a stranger in a foreign land until now. And here is where I might be staying until I reach my ultimate promised land of Heaven. I never realized that when I left home in 1997 that I left even the feelings of home, never to have it again, even in my own house. I know I'll be able to create home for my kids, but can I create it for me?

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Plain Language on Parental Rights

I mentioned just two blogs ago about the UNCRC and the affect that it will have on us as parents. Let me specificially state things that WILL happen if this gets passed:

-spanking will be illegal
-homeschooling will only be permitted if the government determines it is in the best interest of the child; the parent no longer determines this
-the government will determine if the child should go to a private christian school
-the parent may no longer teach that Jesus is the only way to Heaven; the government would have not only the right but the responsibility for taking the child out of the home
-children have the right to determine if they go to church, where they go to church, what activities they are involved in, how many activities they are involved in
-whereas right now the government views parents as acting in the best interest of the child unless proven otherwise, parents will always be suspect and will have to prove why what they are doing is best, in the eyes of the government, for their children
-in short, the ratification of this legislation means that, in America, parents will no longer have any authority in the lives of their children. The only way to stop this from happening is through a Parental Rights' Amendment

I hope that the lack of comments on my blog at the last posting about this terribly important subject was due to digestion on the parts of the readers. If we sit back and do nothing, everything that we value and see as our God-given responsibility in the raising of our children will be taken from us. And it could happen within the term of the next President.

More information:
If this treaty becomes binding on the United States, the government would have the power to intervene in a child's life “for the best interest of the child.” Currently, the government can intervene in this fashion only by going to court and proving that parents have been abusive or have neglected their children. (This standard also applies in divorce cases on the presumption that the family unit has been broken.) This means that whenever the UN-dominated social services system thought that your parental choices were not the best, the government would have the power to override your choices and protect your child from you.

If this treaty becomes binding, all parents would have the same legal status as abusive parents, because the government would have the right to override every parental decision if it deemed the parent's choice contrary to the child's best interest. Specifically, spanking would be banned under the express terms of the UNCRC. Moreover, children would be required to be taught in a religiously “tolerant manner”. (The American Bar Association, which supports the treaty, has already opined that teaching children that Jesus is the only way to God violates the spirit and meaning of the UNCRC.)

The ability to homeschool one's children would become not a right, but a UN-supervised activity that could be overturned if social services personnel believed that it would be “best” for your child to receive another form of education.

These are not idle speculations, but the proven result of the UN's own interpretation of the treaty as they have reviewed other nations' compliance with the treaty's provisions. Here's the difference: No other major nation in the world has a constitutional provision that makes a provision of a treaty automatically part of the “highest law of the land.” This is the Constitution's Achilles heel. In every other nation, the UNCRC is a political liability—if ratified in America, it would be an enforceable and binding law.

Under existing Supreme Court precedent, a treaty cannot override an express provision of the U.S. Constitution. But a treaty can override a reserved right (Missouri v. Holland). And a treaty certainly can override either a state constitution or state statute. Parental rights are reserved (or implied) rights; they are not an express provision within the Constitution. A ratified treaty would clearly threaten our longstanding constitutional recognition of the liberty to raise our children. Moreover, it would instantly override every legislative victory ever won for homeschooling.

Sunday, February 17, 2008

Version #3

For those who don't already know, we are indeed pregnant with Rhodes baby #3. Jeremy has never been so excited in his life. (Wait a minute...the flight from Korea to the US when he was separating for the military might be a small challenge to that statement...) I'm excited about the little person but apprehensive that my energy and sanity will make it through the first year of their little life. That's when I just repeat "I trust you, Lord. I trust you." There are multiple reasons why God made pregnancy 9 months for humans, and I think mental preparation is one of them :)

So raise your glasses and let's toast! To another wonderful little life! To being one step closer to completing the composition of our family! To the last round of maternity clothes and stretch marks! To only one more labor!

Thursday, February 07, 2008

Parental Rights Amendment

I know this is a lot of information, but I ask that you take a minute and read it all. It was brought to my attention by a dear friend who is homeschooling her three kiddos, but it applicable to parent (or future parent or lover of the family unit). The consequences of our inaction in this area will be detrimental. It amazes me that the government says it has no right to interfer with what happens in the bedroom of people, but they have the duty to be involve in the conversations around the dinner table. Unfortunately, the ones who will suffer from this government "involvement" will be the people who actually TALK with their kids over the dinner table! Enough of my babbling...
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From the Desk of Michael P. Farris ...
February 7, 2008
Dear HSLDA Members and Friends:

I am writing to you today about obtaining permanent protection for our rights as parents. For nearly 25 years, HSLDA has focused on defending the right of parents to home educate their children. We have met with great success in this effort, and we have seen God’s hand of blessing on thousands of families as the homeschooling movement has progressed.

After all, this movement was built upon the firm belief that parents possess a God-given right to direct the upbringing and education of their children. And I know that you’ll agree with me in saying when that right is under fire, we must do whatever we can to protect it.

Parental Rights are in Jeopardy

A “perfect storm” that could literally demolish the rights we value so deeply is approaching on the horizon. If these threats persist, we could soon be looking at the demolition of the parental role, and an upsurge of government intrusion in family life. Even though parental rights are recognized as a fundamental right under current Supreme Court doctrine, there are two threats to the recognition of this principle.

The Threat from the Federal Courts

Today an increasing number of Supreme Court justices refuse to recognize that parental rights are a fundamental right. In the 2000 case of Troxel v. Granville, only four of the nine Supreme Court justices expressly agreed that the Constitution “protects the fundamental right of parents to make decisions concerning the care, custody, and control of their children.” Two of these justices—then-Chief Justice William Rehnquist and Justice Sandra Day O’Connor—have since left the Court.

Even Justice Antonin Scalia, a noted conservative, holds that parental rights are not judicially enforceable at all until there is a specific parental rights provision in the Constitution.

The Threat of International Law

Even as the recognition of parental rights is fading within the federal courts, international law which diminishes parental authority is approaching possible ratification. The growing use of international law in American courts offers a frightening glimpse into the future. If the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (UNCRC) becomes binding on this country, then parental rights as we know them will be erased. This international treaty provides for the government to define what is in the “best interests of the child,” supplanting the parent as the ultimate decision maker.

Moreover, if the UNCRC is ratified, all state laws which recognize the right to homeschool will be superseded by international law if international tribunals or American courts think that such education is not in the “best interest of the child.” We would do well to remember the example of Germany on this point.

There is Only One Solution

I am convinced that there is only one solution to this attack on the child-parent relationship: We must amend the Constitution to permanently secure the rights of parents. The Parental Rights Amendment is the only way to protect and preserve the rights of parents to make key decisions for their children, as well as to direct their upbringing and education.

The only way that we can accomplish this goal is to gain the nationwide support of millions of parents like you. We need to raise our voices to safeguard the child-parent relationship. And we need to be organized and vocal so that Congress will listen.

It’s the Battle of Our Lifetime

The battle for parental rights will be the fight of our lifetime. That’s why I am turning to you for support as we launch this vital campaign.

The process of amending the Constitution is both long and challenging. Our goal is to have a substantial number of Congressional co-sponsors before the Parental Rights Amendment is even introduced. Ultimately the amendment requires final approval of two-thirds of both the House and the Senate. Once passed by Congress, the amendment must then be ratified by three-fourths of the states.

We Need a Groundswell of Support

As you can see, passing the Parental Rights Amendment is not going to be easy. But it is completely possible. If we can find 10,000 people within each congressional district who are willing to contact their congressmen and senators on this issue, then we can gain a favorable response from most members of Congress. We are referring to these individuals as Citizen Co-sponsors. Our goal is to find 10,000 Citizen Co-sponsors in at least 80% of the congressional districts in the country. While this number may seem daunting, it is clearly attainable. In fact, if each HSLDA member recruits 40 people to become Citizen Co-sponsors by signing the petition, we will reach this goal.

The bottom line is this: we need a groundswell of support and activism from our HSLDA members. That’s why I am asking you to do two things right away.

1. Join ParentalRights.org

You can become a Citizen Co-Sponsor simply by signing the petition for parental rights on ParentalRights.org. But I am asking you to take this one step further.

I am challenging you to join the campaign. With a gift of $25 or more, you can become a member of ParentalRights.org. There are two reasons why we urgently need your financial support. The first and most obvious reason is that building the infrastructure to secure a Constitutional amendment requires a substantial amount of money. Second, under existing federal law we can only send detailed information about the political implications of this effort to dues-paying members. Therefore certain communications will only be given to our dues-paying members rather than those who have only signed the petition.

2. Get your friends and neighbors involved

I’m asking you to enlist your friends and family to visit ParentalRights.org, and encourage them to join the campaign. Our user-friendly Tell a Friend application enables you to upload email addresses from your address book, and easily inform friends of the importance of the campaign. Growth is essential during the early stages of this effort, and that support needs to start now.

We need grassroots support from dedicated parents in all 50 states to ensure the smooth passage of the amendment. I firmly believe that the homeschooling movement is the key to victory in this massive effort. We’ve come a long way in the last 25 years… but there is so much more ahead. I’m challenging you to join the fight today.

Sincerely,
Michael P. Farris
Chairman, Home School Legal Defense Association
President, ParentalRights.org

The HSLDA E-lert Service is a service of:Home School Legal Defense Association • P.O. Box 3000 • Purcellville, Virginia 20134-9000Phone: (540) 338-5600 • Fax: (540) 338-2733 • Email: info@hslda.orgWeb: http://www.hslda.org

Wednesday, February 06, 2008

A Life of Grey

Tangent before I get started--why is it so much fun to spell "gray" as "grey"? I'm sure my mother-in-law can tell me if I can use them interchangably...

My life, right at this very minute, seems void of any kind of color whatsoever. Not only is it STILL too cold to take the kids for a walk in the stroller (not to mention the ice on the roads), but we are further in isolation due to the flu. I had it, Benjamin had a little bit of it, and we seemed to be on the mend until today when Hannah threw up twice. The very weird thing is that we never go anywhere. We hardly ever see anyone on a consistant basis anyway. So, how are we sick? We were out and about all the time in Korea--downtown, around bases, at church & meetings, at the playground in February 40 degree weather--and we never got sick like this. So why, now that I no longer have all of those fun places to actually caught germs, am I having to go through the cycles of sickness? It seems that if we had gone through it in Korea, it would have at least been the price we paid for having some fun and being with friends. We can't even say that much now!

And so here I am...feeling sick, taking care of sick ones, trying to work, trapped in the house, and no end in sight (well, at least for the last two of the list--I know the kids will get better eventually!). Many times this morning I pondered the wonders of depression medication. But because of my compulsive/obsessive personality, I know not to open that Pandora's Box! I can see myself slipping into the "need a drug for everything" mentality as the chaos of my life only seems to escalate and never level off. The one drug I don't need right now is sleeping medication! He he he :) I guess exhaustion will do that for a body! Speaking of which....zzzzzzz.....